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Linda D. Lowe is the founder and speaker behind Living the Life Ministry, a ministry organization that works with youth and young adults. She is also a motivational speaker and women’s life coach!
Me: I would like for you to tell me about your experience as a mother. When did you become a single mom and how long have you been a single mom?
Linda: I’ve been a single mother for 13 years. I found out I was pregnant at 20 years old at the end of my freshman year of college. I was the first college student out of my family of 7 children. At the age of 20 and being a college student I didn’t focus on being a mother really but I focused on wanting to go back to school. That was my main concern. I never thought about having an abortion because I knew my family and her dad would be there to take care of her so I just really wanted to go back to school. After realizing I wouldn’t be able to go back to school that’s when I started working and bonding with my child and really getting to know her.
I was eventually able to go back to school after a year and a half thanks to family that really supported me and helped me take care of her during that time. I have enjoyed the journey of raising my daughter with the help of her dad and my family and have my master’s degree, too. So yeah being a single mom has really opened my eyes to a lot of different things but it has not stopped me from continuing my education or starting my own business.
Me: So as a college student and single mom you had the support of your family and the father. Which is great not everyone is lucky enough to have that. So what life skills or values are you instilling in your daughter at this point in her life?
Linda: Definitely teaching her about making good choices and friendships. She’s in middle school now, in the 8th grade and I really want her to understand the importance of friendship and influence even from her perspective. Let her know that she can be a positive influence or a negative one. That peer pressure can be both positive and negative and that people are going to pressure her to do some negative things and that she needs to know how to have the wisdom and courage to stand up against those people who are doing bad things. Also teaching her about dating and what to do with her hormones as they begin to kick in and kids talking about sex and teaching her about that from a Christian standpoint. I’ve always wanted to be able to have an open conversation with her about anything from sex to drugs to whatever. I think we talk to our kids a lot about making good grades and being successful, but academics aren’t the only thing that help you to become successful. Surrounding yourself with people who have a positive and good mindset is also a part of being successful.
Me: So with raising your daughter and being a busy businesswoman tell us about your work and what it is that you do in your business.
Linda: I basically consider myself to be the women’s life coach. I coach only women and I coach them in a lot of different areas whether it’s relationships or careers or spiritually. I help them to basically, as my motto says, not just survive in life but thrive in life. I think it’s important in our culture to let women know that they have a voice and they can use it. Also letting women know that there’s help out there and you don’t have to believe the myth that all women are out to get you. We need one another to lift each other up and encourage one another and share our stories with each other so that we can make it through whatever it is we’re going through. So that’s part of what I do as a life coach.
I’m also a motivational speaker. I have my masters degree in youth and young adult ministries. I deal a lot with youth and young adults and that age group. I have also worked on a college campus where I worked in the residence hall with young ladies. Teaching them different stuff, counseling them and coaching them and mentoring them in different ways. I also speak every chance I get in front of audiences but mainly youth and young adult. I also speak to adults and women in general sometimes too though.
Me: That can be some emotional work at the end of the day. So once you have a full day life coaching others at the end of the day how do you make sure that you’re ok after dealing with so many types of issues and emotions?
Linda: Ok, so one thing I have a friend that I have been friends with for about 15 years and he’s actually a soon to be licensed psychologist. He’s my go-to person. Not only are we friends but he has that background. He doesn’t really counsel me on a professional level but he knows me and he’s my person that I can vent to or go to for advice. Not only that but I have other female friends I can go to as well. So I have a good pool of friends who can listen when I need them to listen or give me advice when I need advice. I know that they have my best interest at heart and I can really get some good advice. Above them, I go to God. I’m a very spiritual person and make sure that I get my one on one time with God every day.
Me: I’m glad you have people in your corner because we so need that. Tell me about that light bulb moment that inspired you to become a life coach and author? Was there something that inspired that in you or was it something you just always wanted to do?
Linda: So, I was working at a university for about 5 years and they had cutbacks and I was one of the people that had to go. During that time I was “unemployed.” I thought there’s no reason I need to be unemployed because I have a masters degree. Also, I said to myself that with God on the Throne there is always work to be done. That was the time I used to create my ministry. That’s when I created Living the Life Ministry. I purchased the domain, got the logo, bought business cards, did the website. I just started to market myself as a youth and young adult minister because that’s what I had my degree in. I just felt that’s what God was calling me to do. I had already done work in this field and I realized I didn’t need to be employed by the church to do what God was calling me to do.
So I would acquire different speaking positions with that but then I was hired back by the same university but in a different position than the one I had left. This time, I was working in the dorm with young ladies. So I did that for almost three years and I was actually fired from that position because they said I had used a term they didn’t agree with. To me growing up in the urban inner city it wasn’t a term that I hadn’t used before when speaking. They basically fired me on the spot and I didn’t like the way they did that so I sent them a letter saying that I didn’t appreciate the way they handled the situation. Abruptly removing me from the girls I was working with just kind of interrupted the whole flow.
But I just started where I left off 3 years ago with my ministry business and writing my book. This is what I really want to do because that’s what brings me the most joy at the end of the day. I never really wanted to work for other people because you have to comply with their rules. It’s not that I necessarily had a problem with rules but they give you mandates you have to fulfill and sometimes you just don’t want to do that. Being fired really pushed me to the point where I said “ok I have to get my writing and everything else together”. But I was fired in March and by the 1st of April I had my blogs up and I was doing a lot of different stuff. I didn’t allow it to make me angry or bitter I just used it to propel me to the next thing.
Me: That’s such a good thing to do because I think a lot of us will get stuck and we have to recognize that and pull ourselves out. No one is going to come along and pull us out, it’s just us and God to do the work. With running your business and the ministry. What does a typical day look like for you Linda? How does the work day flow for you?
Linda: Well, my routine has changed a lot. At first, because I’m the person that definitely believes routine is important, I would get up early and workout and have time with God and then just do that until 1 or 2 in the morning. Until I realized that I needed to take care of myself and get the right amount of rest to stay healthy. So now I will get up early enough to make sure I get my 1 hour of workout time in, my time to have my devotions, and then my time for family worship with my daughter. Then since my daughter’s private school is kind of far from our house I’ll drop her off and spend her school day in the library working typically about 8 hours or so in front of my laptop. Sometimes a little more or less depending on what I have to get done. Just making sure that I’m getting things done that I need to get done. Sometimes it can be hectic or I find myself working really late and need to make myself go to bed.
Me: But you love what you do so I understand you want to stay up and just work until it’s done. So running your business and being in ministry who would you say has been an inspiration to you in your life?
Linda: For me I would definitely say during my high school years I had this one woman who was my coach on my dance team who was an inspiration to me and pushed me to go to college. My mom and my dad have always been a spiritual inspiration to me with the way they conduct themselves. Also, in the business world my sister who also owns her own business. She started out maybe five to seven years ago and just seeing the way she hustles in her business is an inspiration to push myself to do what I need to do to keep my business up and running.
Me: What advice would you give to a single mom who wants to act on something but she’s maybe afraid to step out of her comfort zone or doesn’t know what steps to take?
Linda: To someone who’s afraid to step outside of their comfort zone I would say just do it. It’s not going to get done by just wishing. You actually have to put a plan into place and follow through with the plan. In terms of trying to get that done, I would tell them to connect with someone else who has already been there or is already on that journey and can give them great insight. Our networking connections make a big difference in growing and succeeding. I would definitely tell them if they can’t necessarily hook up with a mentor they can search people who have done it and continue to do that research and set a goal to do a certain amount of research a day. But set goals and a timeline to achieve them. If you don’t set a deadline you’ll just keep pushing them back and back and they’ll never get done.
Me: Do you have a book in mind that you can recommend to a single mom who wants to read something about getting started with a business or something inspirational?
Linda: In terms of getting started with a business I do not but I have a lot of inspirational books that I recommend. One is called Bounce: Living the Resilient Life. It kind of talks about how to live a balanced life and how to bounce back from hard times. I want to say the author’s name is Robert Wicks. It’s a really good book. The president of the university that I was fired from actually gave me that book maybe a year after I started working there. It’s one that I think is great for helping women lead a balanced life.
Me: The name of my website is NatashaVIP. VIP stands for Vision, Inspiration, and Purpose. When you hear those words what do they mean to you as a woman, a mother, and a businesswoman?
Linda: When I hear those words they means that I’m going somewhere. I have a clear understanding of where I need to go and my focus is on getting there. I’m not going to allow anything to distract me, deter me, or turn me away. That I’m going somewhere and I’m excited about where I’m going. That’s what those words make me think of.
Me: To wrap up what do you do for fun? When you’re letting your hair down or going on vacation what do you do to just have some fun or relax?
Linda: Really, just hanging out with my family. I come from a very large family. I have three brothers and three sisters and the family has grown since then with lots of nephews. We sit around and watch TV and play video games. I love challenging my nephews to video games. I enjoy going to the beach and hanging out with my friends. I enjoy lots of different things. I’m a very sarcastic person and I enjoy laughing and having a good time.
Me: I want other single moms to know that life isn’t always going to be hard. There will be times you can let your hair down and have fun and that you actually need that time to recharge. Lastly, talk to me about what’s next for you? Do you have any new projects coming up?
Linda: So I’m really excited about this next step that I’ve been working on. And that is my book for singles. Dating Smart: 9 Tips to Transform Your Crazy Dating Life. And it just really digs deep into how to date without the craziness that can come along with dating. So, I’m really really excited about this book. This is one of the topics that I love because I work with young adults and that is one of those things that is always on their mind. I love talking about dating and relationships and it’s a book that comes from the perspective of really telling people how to date properly. I’ve done some biblical research for the model for dating. It’s available as an eBook through Amazon. The great thing about it is that it’s good advice for anyone from teenagers to adults.
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